Thursday, 6 July 2017

LIFESTYLE: Life's Little Thoughts


Before I begin writing this post, I'm sure all of you will have assumed that this post is going to be a little different than my usual fashion posts, and you're right. During my short break in Spain, I realised a lot of things, these things have impacted my life and this is the first time that I've had such strong realisations and thoughts. As a blogger, you're viewed as someone who's basically always happy and encounters no life struggles, but that's because we...well I, rarely publish anything to do with my problems. I may retweet something related to what I'm experiencing, but then again, most of my retweets can be viewed as just general life. Anyway...onto the post.

I jetted off to Spain the day after my second year of university ended, I had a very up and down year, I experienced heartache, shock, trauma, confusion and a lot of other negative emotions. But I also experienced happiness, humour, love and many other positive emotions. I ended my second year on a high, I had the best friends that a girl could ask for around me, so much support for my studies, my hobbies and just life in general, and everything seemed to be going my way...I mean, after the year that I had experienced, it was about time!

However, only a few hours into my trip, I was involved in an argument with someone who I did care about and valued my friendship with. I'm not going to go into the details, because that's not fair on either of us, but the argument really made me re-evaluate things, and that's when I began to realise many different things that have now shaped the way that I live and think.

No. 1- You can't force something that's not there. 
I know that a lot of girls, and boys, can relate to this. When we're young, we feel things for people, whether we have strong feelings or even just minor feelings, we all go through it, but things can be hard if you try to force something that's not there. I hate letting people down, and I hate seeing them upset, but in some situations, you have to put yourself first, and if you're not feeling the exact same as the other person, then it's time to let it go. You cannot force something that's not there into something, it just simply cannot be done. The earlier you realise this, the easier it will be for both parties involved.

No. 2 - People can surprise you, in a bad way. 
I'm still young, and I know that a lot of my followers are too. I know that I'm not the only girl to become blind sighted by someone, and I won't be the last girl. I'll openly admit that I met someone who I thought was genuinely the nicest person I had ever met, I just couldn't fault them. Then, they began to show who they really were, the most disappointing thing was that they were so far from what I had thought. Realising this did upset me, and I did feel down for a little while, but I'm happy that I realised this after a short while, rather than years on, it's true that people can surprise you, in a bad way, but it's also true that when this happens, you can shake it off and feel content again. 

No. 3 - Travelling is simply beautiful. 
Okay so, I know I only travelled to Spain. I know that I haven't travelled the world, and have no plans to...yet. But without the wifi and signal to connect to my friends and the internet, I saw how beautiful Barcelona was. This really opened my eyes. The atmosphere, the surroundings and the people, all made my visit wonderful, as I'm sat writing this post, I'm honestly thinking of booking another trip because I just love the place. It was so nice to be away from the places that I know inside out, and was so interesting to be a tourist in such an amazing city. This has definitely made me want to explore other countries and experience their way of life. 

No. 4 - You are the most important person in your life. 
Yes, it's okay for you to be self centred, it's okay to put yourself first, because you are ultimately the most important person in your life. You need to take care of yourself and put yourself first in situations because we're all different and people will let you down, you may have a great group of friends, but you still need to remember your own personal value.

No. 5 - When you learn to change your mind, you'll change your life. 
Although this is my last point, it's my most important. I changed my mindset over the duration of my break, I changed it from feeling down, feeling not good enough, feeling inferior to others, and feeling as though I had something to prove to everyone, to loving myself, living life the way that I want to, and not caring what other people think of me. I saw a drastic change in my mood once I applied my new mindset, and now there's no stopping me. I'm motivated and determined to reach and exceed every one of my own goals, and I can't wait for you to experience my journey with me. 

Lots of love,

Lucy xo

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  1. It sucks that you got into arguments with someone you cared about :( I have always wanted to visit Barcelona, it looks like a lovely city!

    Steph xx

  2. I loved this, as it's so easy to portray an easy and happy life, but that just isn't true! I'm sorry you got into an argument with someone you care about, and I hope you're okay xx

    Hannah | luxuryblush

  3. Although I try and be really positive all of the time as I'm a massive believer in The Law of Attraction, it was really wonderful reading this as I agree with so much of what you said. So sorry to hear about the row with your friend, it's horrible when rows happen with people we are close to. πŸŒΈπŸ’—✨

    With love, Alisha Valerie. x |

  4. I agree with these all so much, I've definetely learnt some of these the hard way growing up! Especially that you're the most important person in your life x

    Kayleigh Zara 🌻✨

  5. Love this post! Agree with all your points especially #4. When I was your age I used to put a lot into my friendships and I ended up disappointed most of the time as other people didn't value friendship the same way I did. I've now realised it's OK to put yourself first- ultimately you live your life for you so you have to do what makes you happy.

    Alice | Alice In Wonderlust

  6. Love this post, and I can definitely relate to the points you've mentioned. Arguments aren't a nice thing to have, but they can certainly make you realise a lot of things!

    Gabija |